How old is too old to shower with your kid?
With our recent launch of our baby shampoo (yay!) we got all sort of new questions from parents. We expected most of them like when should you wash baby hair with shampoo? or what makes our formula so much better?
But then we got asked ‘til what age is it OK to shower with your children?
An initial google search landed us on:
Really, google? You’ve got the answer to this one?
If you’re asking yourself this question, it might be more helpful to see what other parents’ take on it is. So we took to the internet to see what parents out there are saying. Nudity and acceptance of it will always be a matter of culture, religion, household dynamics and comfort. There is no right answer, but it is certainly helpful to see what other parents’ approach on this topic is.
Is it a complicated topic? We loved how blunt this user put it:
Some parent’s chose to draw the line when children exhibit genital/gender curiosity:
Last time I showered with my kid she asked why my vagina had a beard. Had to inform her that she would one day grow a vagina beard. She didn’t want to shower with me after that.
My parents used to take me into the shower with them when I was little (I don't remember it)... Dad says he stopped when I pointed to his junk and said, "Daddy, what's that?"
I think that's a pretty good indicator.
I drew the line at shared showering with my son once he got to eye level with my ladybusiness - and then tried to stick a finger in it to figure out what it was! :-P
My husband stopped when my oldest was about 3, she looked at him and said "What is THAT" lol
I stopped showering with my son when he was four and a half. I figured he wouldn't remember showering with me and wouldn't feel weird about it when he gets older lol.
Some parent’s just thought it was easy:
They will for sure let you know when it’s time. I’ve always been very open with my kids, and one day each one of them decided they wanted privacy.
When either party becomes uncomfortable with co-bathing.
I don't really get this question. You can continue to bathe together however long you wish, into adulthood, into your retirement, as long as both of you like it. If you want your shower privacy back, then you should tell your son that you don't want to do it everyday.
Some shared their experiences and emphasized family culture.
I think it’s totally up to your family dynamic. Some families are nude all the time and it’s no biggie. Some are seriously uncomfortable with that. I had a friend who lived on the upper level of house and her in-laws were in the suite downstairs. Her 3 year old would listen for the shower to turn on downstairs and rush down to shower with his grandpa. Not weird at all for them. Super weird for other families. It’s what you make it I think.
We still occasionally co-bathe - my daughter just turned eight (I'm the mother). The main problem is not enough room in the bath!
But I don't think there's an issue with either parent/either gender co-bathing at any age, so long as no one is uncomfortable. If anyone feels uncomfortable, then simply stop.
In many European countries entire families take saunas etc together, from childhood to adult ages.
I think it's very healthy and quite important for children to see "normal" adult bodies, all the more so with all the enhanced celebrity and porn images around, that will otherwise be their primary (even only) frame of reference.
My own mother was very relaxed about nudity. This has made it much easier for me as my own body gets older, and it also made it easier when she was dying, in terms of helping care for her. If you're used to having seen your parent naked, it's less confronting when you have to help them bathe etc. It's just the body you've always seen but grown frail and needing assistance.
Probably weird, but I showered with my mom until I was 12. I’m a female, btw. She was a single mother and it helped get the start to the day done faster and she helped me wash my extremely long and thick hair. Neither of us felt weird about it and I still don’t. It made me more comfortable in my own skin, and helped me judge others less based on their looks/body type. We also showered separately probably 40% of the time so it wasn’t all the time or anything. I love my mom, and I’m glad she taught me that nudity isn’t just for sex, she also was very open when I asked questions about stuff. Just my 2 cents.
So how old is too old?
For some parents it is a sensitive subject while for others it seems to be a no brainer. The right answer will definitely depend on parenting style and culture. How old is too old to shower with your kid? What is your take on it? We’d love to hear your thoughts.